Waiting for ‘the call’ telling you you’re going to be a parent? How often do you refresh your email, make sure your phone is on and check in with adoption agencies to make sure you haven’t missed ‘the call’? I know I’m guilty of all of the above but also knew I had to keep myself busy while waiting for the call or I would go crazy.
Here’s my top 10 list of things I did while passing time waiting for ‘the call’. We got the call 6 days before our son was born so I was definitely glad I’d done some of these things ahead of time.
10. Research daycare options – you might not have much notice and may need to go on waiting lists as soon as you bring your little one home depending on how long you take off and where you live.
9. Make a list of the necessities you’ll need to make it through the first few weeks – as we went down the private adoption route and knew the birth parents could change their minds during that first month, we tried to buy as little as possible and only focused on the necessities. Even after the first month, we found we really didn’t need to buy a lot and took all the hand me downs we could get.
8. Read books on parenting and/or adoption – my favourite was ‘No Biking in the House without a Helmet’ as it was a real-life story about a family who adopted internationally and was quite comical.
7. Update your adoption profile book. Have you been on the market longer than planned? It never hurts to get some advice on your adoption profile book and make some updates.
6. Research playgroups or classes you may want to attend. There are a lot of free groups to join so look it up on the internet or ask other moms in your area. Only being able to take 9 months off for adoption leave, I wanted to enjoy every minute of it and get to know other moms.
5. Network with other adoptive parents or people waiting to adopt. Waiting for ‘the call’ knowing you’ve done all you can do is has so talking to others in a similar boat or hearing success stories can be a great way to pass the time.
4. Work out – build up your core muscles. This was a mistake I made – I hadn’t worked out in a while and all of a sudden carrying my 10 lb son up and down stairs every day did a number on my back.
3. SLEEP IN!!! I was told this a thousand times but it’s so true so enjoy it while you can.
2. Go out on dates (if you’re saving money for adoption, find inexpensive dates such as going for a walk, playing a game while drinking some wine, cooking a nice romantic dinner).
1. Enjoy life and know that everything happens for a reason.