According to Wikipedia, ‘Patience is the state of endurance under difficult circumstances, which can mean persevering in the face of delay or provocation without acting on annoyance/anger in a negative way; or exhibiting forbearance when under strain, especially when faced with longer-term difficulties. Patience is the level of endurance one can take before negativity.‘
Chris and I are coming up on 4 years of trying to be parents. Looking back, in a 4-year span a lot of things can happen. Someone can get a university degree; meet their perfect someone, fall in love, get married, have 2 kids; switch jobs – a couple of times; move cities – a couple of times – you get the picture. When I think of our 4-year wait in this light, I’m pretty darn impressed with how patient and positive we have been :-). Luckily we have a lot of people in our lives giving us awesome support during this dreaded waiting period.
To help me with the wait, I recently reached out to fellow parents (bio and adoptive) on Twitter to ask them for advice on how to pass the wait and what Chris and I should do while we’re still childless. Here’s what I heard back:
- ‘Sleep in and sleep lots’ – heard this one A LOT!!
- ‘Go out for dinner’
- ‘Get my MBA’
- ‘Learn to cook’
- ‘Do a marathon’
- ‘Spend time with hubby and friends’
- ‘Read success stories’
- ‘Document the journey’
- ‘Be an advocate for adoption’
Tim Elder who I follow on Twitter has this great blog on passing the wait – http://www.infantadoptionguide.com/7-things-while-you-wait.
All great advice although not sure doing a marathon will ever make my list things to do – I’ll settle for a 10km :-).
Thanks again to our family, friends and journey followers for their great advice and support.